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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t do it! I’m married to a law enforcement officer with PTSD. It’s always been a factor, but that we have kids it’s impacting them. My spouse cannot be confronted without feeling cornered and exploding, whether is me trying to discuss an issue or road rage. If you take the chance make sure his treatment is intense and ongoing. I have big regrets about being in my situation. [/quote]

This is one person’s experience. Here’s another:

I’ve been with DH for 13 years. He developed PTSD about 6 years ago. He’s been blown up and otherwise combat wounded, killed several people, seen several friends killed. His PTSD is generally not an issue, but when it is, it really is. It has changed our communication style to where I know if I’m going to say something negative or push him in any way, I need to say my piece and leave him alone for awhile. He’s explosive, and moreso when he feels cornered. It’s a very true depiction of fight or flight. Then there’s the flip side where he calls me at work in the middle of the day crying and saying he needs me and I go home and find him curled up in the stairs. Those incidents usually last a couple days.

Here’s the thing. Everybody you date will have their thing. If it’s not PTSD maybe it’s another mental illness like bipolar. Maybe they were abused. Maybe they have general self esteem issues. Maybe they are type A and stress themselves out. You have to learn to give people a chance, regardless of their label. DH has 1-2 PTSD triggered moments each year. They are an inconvenience, but he is not. Talk to the guy you’re dating and find out how he manages his incidents and what you should do. Having a plan makes it far more manageable. [/quote]

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