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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Two options:

1. Ignore and continue to monitor.

2. Talk to him about how his writings could make some people understand that he has affinities for males and not females.

Nothing about this demonstrates homosexuality, even if he actually writes "I'm gay". Why? Because gender identity can be fluid at that age, and different identities are put on just like costumes, to see how they feel. Also, if what he wrote isn't that clear-cut, you might be imagining things.

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You should know that gender and sexuality are completely different before you advise people that they’re imagining their child is gay. You’re trying to use buzz words, but words have meanings and you’re doing it wrong.

OP, it’s totally normal to come out to friends first. DS did the same thing. At first, it stung a little that he didn’t feel safe enough to come out to us at the very beginning, but that’s not really the issue. If you think he might not be sure of your feelings, let him know you’re fine with it (it sounds like you are).

You didn’t ask about this but I want to throw it out there. Be careful that you’re monitoring his emails for the right reasons and not to be nosy or feel included in his private life. It’s tempting, but if he doesn’t feel like he can trust you with email, he won’t want to share extremely personal topics. I don’t think monitoring is wrong or anything, and we had an almost identical situation happen. Even though they know you have access, if they’re generally trustworthy, I don’t think most kids really expect parents to read much of their personal correspondence. It’s not far removed from reading their diaries. [/quote]

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