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[quote=Anonymous]My MIL has had some pretty negative feelings about me since we got married 10 years ago. Unbeknownst to me (we weren't the closest, but always got along) she had basically been 'keeping score' for 10 years and cornered me at a family function to rattle off all of the ways i had 'slighted' her over the years. Including but not limited to not talking to a great aunt at some family reunion 8 years prior. 
Anyway, i have just realized she will always be a critical person and take everything i do or don't do personally. 
Ever since that episode months ago i dread seeing them. Nothing is brought up and things are like they used to be with us being friendly but not best friends. I hate feeling this way now and i never had before. They are not as 'fun' as my DH would say as my family so it was always a bit of a drag to visit before, but now i just have no internal motivation to do so. I don't want to be judged for 3 days and we were just there for Thanksgiving and Christmas and now we are going again next weekend. I HATE that i feel this way and it puts a cloud on the entire trip for me. I haven't told DH because that puts him in a bad spot and we have moved past the confrontation but i just can't shake this feeling.

Any advice?

TLDR: MIL judges everything I do and confronted me at a reunion months ago about ways I have slighted her. Now i have a hard time not dreading visiting them even though nothing has been brought up since. [/quote]

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