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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi,

DH here.  Typical DCUM story, married 8 years, three kids, sex dried up.  Been like once a month for a few years.  I consider myself to be a pretty good husband, good father, do lots around the house, do lots of the kid stuff etc.  I have a bit of a dad bod but not hideous (I don't think).  We have a good relationship minus the sex.

Done lots of "date nights" gone out of my way to try to make her feel special etc.  This isn't about sexless marriage per se, but I find that I am at the point where I just don't really care about her as a wife anymore.  I don't dislike her, she is a good mom and does lots to make the household run, but I just don't really care that much for her anymore and find it difficult/annoying to be around her.  I don't care to hear about her day and I generally don't want to spend time with her really, I would just rather do my own thing at this point.  Mostly I look forward to when she falls asleep so I can watch the shows I want that she doesn't like.  The lack of any response to me, or to me working towards having a marital relationship with her has kind of finally just emptied my tank for her.

I don't want a divorce, because I love my family and I really don't want anyone else other than her, but I am finding it hard to have any real engagement with her outside of kid/house stuff.  She's not a bitch and we don't fight much , overall its a pleasant home.

Not really sure of the point of this post but has anyone been in this situation before have any advice about how to manage this dynamic. Not really about how to change it/up the sex, but I don't want to totally lose the marriage

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No advice, but that sounds very familiar to my situation. I've told my wife that I think the lack of sex is a problem, but she hasn't done anything noticeable to improve that aspect of our marriage. I recommended a book and, when she couldn't be bothered to read it, I think that's when I kind of gave up. [/quote]

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