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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My fiance is very frugal with money.  I get that.  I am a woman who believes in paying for myself when I'm on dates so I always have.  It used to bug the heck out of me when he would ask me to share something every time we went out even though he knew I would pay for myself.  I just want to be able to have a nice meal and get what I want to get without worrying if he is also going to like what I'm getting.  He harped and harped on me buying a $500 treadmill.  I lost 70 lbs and used the thing every day for the past 2 years.  Now I'm trying to make room for him to move in after we get married so I mentioned getting rid of it to make room for his stuff.  He, again mentioned that I could have just used the gym in the building and it's a shame.  I would have never lost the weight and gotten in shape because I couldn't leave my son alone at home.

Fast forward to now, my son is in therapy once a week.  Therapy is working and he very much needed it.  It's not easy for me to afford it but I know my son really needs this so I'm sucking it up.  He hasn't come out and openly said it's a waste of money, but I know enough about him to know that's what he is thinking.  I just texted him to say the therapist asked if we could come in today instead of our regular Thursday this week so that what I'm doing tonight.  His response was "oh, do you think you should skip this week since you were just there Thursday?"

I already told him that we are not merging out money when we get married.  I know this will be a great cause of friction.  He still lives like a 20 year old and just doesn't spend money on anything other than food.  I just need to make sure I'm not being overly sensitive.  He makes little comments like "when will he be done with therapy?  How do you know it's working?"  I just need him to not manage my money for me.  I have made it 40 years just fine on my own (no support from parents whatsoever) and I don't need a daddy (he gets very hurt when I say that).

OK I realize I sound ridiculous too, but writing this out made me feel better. [/quote]

I don't think I would be marrying this guy.  Sounds like a big loser.[/quote]

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