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[quote=Anonymous]My DH is a very good man in many respects which I really appreciate and I love him. Close knit family with 2 kids. He is good in talking about everything apart from our relationship or anything  sexual. It pretty makes me sad but I have learned to live with it. One big problem however is that I have found him severally heavily flirting with other women. It makes me furious and I really express my dispesure. To him, he feels that I over react and should not make it such a big deal. I really want to be understanding but my motivation is so down and I am not able to pretend I am ok or let it go.

I have tried to analyze why I feel this way and I think it is mostly because while he is very sexually free with this women, he can hardly have a sexual related conversation with me. To make it worse, all the beautiful things he tells these women are more or less what I really desire to hear from him, He heavily sexts another woman but will not with me. From the men, am I being unreasonable to feel violated or emotionally denied?

Our  sex life is fair, 3x per week on average.  Foreplay is not the best and I struggle. I enjoy being with him and try my best to be there for him, to initiate more and I generally don’t turn  his advances. I am now so demotivated after getting fresh steamy texts between him and another married woman he used to know in college. I know it’s not sexual but he tells me he finds it easier to talk sexually with women he cannot see or will never meet. Just to mention, he has told me I encourage his behavior because I don’t let him go down on me often and I don’t like being naked with him. To a resonable extend its true and I will working on it. But again, I find it so hard to do this when he does not have an eye for me, does not encourage me. I only learned about this when we were talking about why I feel bad that he is sexting another woman so much.

Could like to hear from those who have been in such situation on how to handle without breaking the rest of the relationship that is pretty ok. I just feel he is very insensitive to my desires and feelings.

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