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[quote=Anonymous]2.5 years ago we had a tumultuous summer - trouble selling old home, major issues with new home, death in the family - DH had self-medicated very minor anxiety along with significant chronic pain with pot.  He stopped smoking just prior to the issues coming up, so withdrawal was a compounding issue.  He had a breakdown and became mostly non-functional.  Didn’t need hospitalization (almost) but psych visits every other day and a myriad of medications.  Wasn’t allowed to drive for 3-4 weeks and couldn’t be left alone.  Family stayed with us to help.  After about 6-8 weeks he stabilized on Lexapro.  Eventually weaned himself off Lexapro (without telling me ... I knew he intended to but he didn’t tell me when he actually decided to do it) because he didn’t like side effects.  No libido, can’t drink at all, an some other minor stuff.  Went back to the self-medicating.  A few months ago he, unbeknownst to me, decided that he was worried he was going to get caught with pot and would lose custody or something (irrational given how conscientious he is about when, where and how much he smokes) and also started worrying about long term health effects of smoking (mostly avoided if he’d switch to a vaporizer).  He stopped smoking without telling me.  Three weeks ago he had another breakdown and it’s still going on.  He’s not in bad enough shape to need hospitalization but refuses to do anything to treat the situation.  Finally started to wean on Lexapro yesterday but is now having a horrible day and saying he won’t take anymore.  One day he says he thinks he should go back to self-medicating and then the next that he should do pharmaceuticals.

The kids are starting to notice that somethings wrong and I’m starting to lose it from the stress.  He want to talk every 15-30 minutes - the same conversation about how sad he is (I am too and I understand), how he wishes this weren’t happening, how he doesn’t know whether to do natural or pharmaceutical.  It was a productive conversation the first 5 or so times but he won’t take anyone’s advice, not even a doctor or psych and it’s been the same conversation multiple times a day for three week.

I don’t know what to do.  Anyone BTDT? Any ideas? [/quote]

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