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[quote=Anonymous]OP I feel for you.

It's a tough call but I'll try to offer some advice. I went through something similar.

i met my biological mom - and my biological brother later in life after my father's death. I was fully prepared to go a lifetime without this meeting and intended to do so but life circumstances happened and I did indeed meet her.

It was more than strange. I was fully prepared to get things off my chest as it related to her abandoning me and all the incidents surrounding that, but at the time she was ill and failing. She's since died.

I'm not going to bore you with the details of the meeting or aftermath but i will say this. I'm glad I did. If not for anyone but my own peace of mind that I didn't even know that I didn't have until I had it - if that makes sense. A letting go if you will. We all walk around and harbor resentments and disappointments in life - big and small and it shapes us. This has shaped you - in whatever way and I think having contact prior to your bio father's death is simply a way relieve yourself from any future "what if" anxieties.

That said, you should be prepared and willing to deal with any emotional fall out - buried feelings/resentment/anger/sadness - whatever. I approached with a detachment - and later dealt with emotions internally and alone. That was my way - but be prepared to address as it's likely they will arise.

I strive to do things that will make me a better person in life and one filled with self-understanding and forgiveness - even when not deserved - goes along way in those efforts.

Good luck.[/quote]

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