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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, you will regret it.  Talk to him.  You need closure.[/quote]

I agree. The fact that you are curious about him indicates that on some level, you acknowledge the connection and are curious about his life. You will regret it if you don't reach out.

It may be helpful to remember tho, that he doesn't get to control how much contact, or the kind of contact, you will have from here on out. You can reach out to him for your purposes - ask your questions, share your feelings about his choices, whatever is important to you. If he responds to you reaching out, and wants to answer your questions or respond to your feelings, that's great. You will have had your chance to say your peace.

But, you are under no obligation to maintain contact or to let him live out his missed years as a daddy (if that's what he's after) or whatever his agenda is, after you get what you need. This is one of those deals where both parties have to decide to proceed. You can walk away any time. Just remember that. You have your own power to decide what you want from him and what you want to be to him. You don't have to be what he wants.

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