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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is the point of telling them? I have 2 kids, one thru IVF and one naturally and never occurred to me to even tell him unless he asked later down the road (adult).
The way I look at is it was my egg, my husbands sperm, I carried the baby in my uterus and delivered naturally....the only difference is that I had a bump start. 
My son is 3 and has a very good comprehension of things but to explain IVF let alone where babies come from is way out of our league right now.[/quote]

I'm the poster above you.  I think there's a huge amount of difference between a 3 year old and an adult.  Would I explain IVF to a 3 year old?  Probably not, it's too complicated.  But my 11 year old has asked lots of really insightful questions about his birth and circumstances surrounding it.  She's curious about what kinds of food I craved, or who was in the delivery room.  Not including a key piece of information like IVF would seem very strange.  In addition, I think letting your child know how much you wanted them can't really be a bad thing.

So, I figured I'd clarify.  When I said "of course I'd tell", I didn't actually mean sit your 3 year old down with diagrams of fallopian tubes.  I meant sometime before they hit reproductive age there will be conversations where this information fits in naturally, and hiding it or omitting it would be, in my opinion, strange.  [/quote]

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