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[quote=Anonymous]DH loves me but not enough for it to work out.  We've gone through female friend after female friend of his lying about, writing letters to, and creating strange relationships with (not emotional affairs but still betrayals and awkward).  I generally find out about them when the girl, thinking that I've approved, starts putting her arm around DH (once even sat in his lap at a housewarming!).  DH doesn't love them, at least not more than he loves me, but can't give them up -- at least not "as friends.". But, he'll have them sleep over or encourage me to be friends with them, or have them borrow my clothes -- all before I find out.  And then I find out.  It's sick.  He's sick.

We've gone to therapy with multiple therapists -- many have told me to leave him after the first session. One, after only 15 minutes, said "he will never stop lying.  You need to leave."

I can't.  I've been to therapy but I have hope in him.  That one day he'll see how much he hurts me and how much I love him and, even if not for me, for our two girls, he'll start to treat me better.  It's disgusting.

Anyway, it's been 10 years of this crap.  It's affecting my job, as I come in late to work crying, and am often trying to figure it out.  I realized tonight that I want to kill him, and we'll likely spend the rest of my life in jail.  I don't even want to begin with how it's affecting the kids.  I almost killed him tonight -- almost.

I am a strong, ivy-league grad with a fantastic job. [/quote]

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