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[quote=Anonymous]I'm in the East Bay, in a city that isn't quite what the average DCUM-er would find acceptable (think San Lorenzo/Hayward/Castro Valley area). We've had a hard time making friends outside of work/mutual acquaintances, and I think it's because we have very different types of jobs (and schedules) than people in our community or at DD's pre-school. Aside from teachers (who have somewhat different schedules than traditional office jobs), I can't think of a single couple we've met in our neighborhood or through DD's school with two parents with typical white collar jobs (e.g. weekday, 9-5). It ends up our kids' nanny does a lot of weekday playdates. On the weekends, we have a hard time scheduling playdates because everyone wants to do them at like 8am on Saturday...and we need to sleep in at least a bit after getting up early every weekday.

In other parts of the Bay Area, there are a lot of 1 income households. Or there are "super-mom" types who are working full time, being the class parent or Brownies room mother, putting their kids in every class etc. I think I'm a good parent, but I didn't grow up in a household where my parents' lives revolved around mine. And I just can't make every moment of my free time about my kids. That, more than anything, seems to be the biggest barrier to building a community with other people who have kids...honestly. I think it's okay to plan something between two families that isn't primarily about the kids (e.g. go to a restaurant that is family friendly rather than go to a park)...this doesn't seem to be a popular opinion, though, here.[/quote]

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