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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]my dd, also 5th grade, same position. what has helped:
role play so she has a grab bag of responses. practiuve a lot so they are 2nd nature.
tell her to shrug her shoulders or just say whatever when she can't think of anything to say.
remind her that these kids are feeling insecure and are immature. 5th grade will end in a few months and many of these kids will change by 6th grade (some for the better, some for the worse)
sometimes joking works. when they tease her for not knowing something, she can respond "not everyone can be as smart as you" followed by a bow. my dd did this, sarcastically, and the one girl who kept bugging her stopped.

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We did all the above too.

I also talked to the counselor, the home room teacher and the principal and made sure that every meeting was summarized in an email that all were copied to.  I also mentioned the word bullying and outlined the impact on my daughter (reluctance to go to school, lagging behind in homework etc).

Finally, I also made sure that she made attempts to be more social. She was quite shy and frequently did not even acknowledge people around her.  We practised saying "hi" to people, make eye contact and smile at them.  This worked because she did not have to chit chat with them, instead she kept walking but gave a smile, nod, eye-contact, wave or said hello.

Interestingly, she made a whole lot of friends because she always had a bunch of sharpened pencils with her. She liked to use mechanical pencils but had a whole bunch of regular pencils with her.  She kept them as backup but had no issues with giving those away if someone needed it. Invariably, some kid in her class would be without pencils and she gave it to them.  This was a small thing but it had garnered her enough goodwill for things to change 180 degrees by the end of ES.

You have to read "Queen Bees and Wannabee" and make your child read it too.  It was very empowering. [/quote]

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