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[quote=Anonymous]My DD (5th grade) is often the target of rude remarks etc.  Bullying is probably not the precise word here, but she's become the kid who is picked on - the easy target.  I've tried to coach body language (posture holding head up high, looking people in eye, pretending to be confident even if she doesn't feel it).  Basically, she's feeling like Rudolf the Red-nosed Reindeer before his epic sleigh ride with Santa.

What advice would you give your child if it was your child?

1. On the playground when her whole grade participates in a game that she's not good at and she gets ostracized if misses the ball, etc.  Ends up trying to find someone to hang out with or convince someone to hang out instead of playing that game.  I asked her to try but she said she's tried multiple times, is not good at it and is treated badly. My second suggestion was to take a book or something to do and under no circumstance act desperate.  Am I on the right track?

2.  Quick assertive quips for times when other girls try to cut her down - usually this is subtle jabs like: I can't believe you don't know about xyz; I would look better in that shirt, etc.
 
3. Have you ever considered (or done this) switching to a new school (with lots of coaching) to give your child a fresh start with new people?  It seems like it can be hard to get yourself out of these "roles" once it's started.

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