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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MIL was not that loving & caring to DH when he was growing up, and it also comes with some beating & stuffs. And, I find it amazing that now in her 60s, she CAN BE that caring & loving to the grandkid (BIL's daughter, unfortunately not towards to our grandson though) and being an awesome grandma. Both I & DH find it shocking that MIL can do that far helping out to take care of BIL's daughter since she was born day 1; but at the same time, I feel a bit bitterness for our little boy. Well, DH tells me that don't compare, don't look at it because he says his older brother is always the favorite in the family, so he is not surprised his mom will do that. But he tells me that he does not care much about his mom's love & care to our son if there are any or she offers because his childhood memory is not that great.  It is true that a woman can treat a son not that great, but treat grandkid with full of love because of ages?[/quote]

GET OVER IT.

You are holding on to bitterness for the difference in how your MIL treated your DH and now is caring toward your son?

You realize your actively taking on other people's baggage.  this is your dh's deal not about you.

The past is the past.  Wasting time focusing on it won't change a damn thing.

Would you rather her be awful now?

What a colossal waste of energy.[/quote]

Did you read the post?  The MIL treated the DH terribly and now also treats OPs child poorly.  That is absolutely the OPs business.

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NP here.  While I agree it's op's business in that sense, I agree with pp that she should let it go.  Some people are damaged goods.  MIL appears to be one of those people.  OP should protect the kids as best she can from the craziness, but she has no power to change her MIL.   This is where the "accept things as they are" part of the serenity prayer comes into play. [/quote]

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