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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have been married for less than a year. Prior to marriage we had agreed to wait at least 1 year before beginning to try and conceive. I'm in the middle of an examination/evaluation period with my job to obtain licensure and I wanted to be finished with that before children. I'll finish that up (assuming I pass) right around the 1 year mark. We also agreed to square away a few things with the house and finances. That means our plan was to start TTC by fall/winter 2018. She is 26 so she has plenty of time before any age related worries.

The problem: She never told her mother our schedule. Apparently her mother has been periodically grilling her about why hasn't she gotten pregnant yet as a normal course of business. Starting last week; however, her mom really started putting the pressure on. Then on the weekend it comes out that her mother who had been in remission from cancer after completing chemo therapy 5 years ago was told last week that the cancer has come back. So she has upped the pressure because she wants a grandchild before she dies.

How would you handle this?

My initial thought is that making a baby in order to meet her mothers timeline might not be a good idea because the baby will still here after her mother dies so we better be really sure we are ready to have a baby.[/quote]

Jesus, her mother is a selfish ass***. No way should you bring another human into this world until you're good and ready. Also, now that the old had is gonna croak, you don't want your wife pregnant and upset about her mom's impending doom, affecting her pregnancy and baby. The sooner she croaks the better. She sounds horrible.[/quote]

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