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[quote=Anonymous]My niece has been raised by two very emotionally abusive parents. I kept her with me as much as I could and tried to give her some healthy childhood memories when I could. She was always the scapegoat, the bad child and she believed that about herself for years. She also stilled tried desperately to get them to show or express any sign of love or care or affection and she would hang into a word or some small gesture. I always avoided speaking negatively to her about her parents as she was always supposed to tell them everything we spoke about and I was afraid of losing contact.

Once she was a teen, I started to drop stronger hints, point out behaviors that were unfair etc. When she was 15 she finally started to realize that this wasn't how others lived (she was never allowed to have friends outside of seeing kids at school). At 16 she finally started to call it abuse and we had long conversations as she started to make sense of her life. She is still in the house and still being abused but she has more power now that she knows what it is.

She is now 17. Last week, I said a lot of negative thins about her parents. I named it, called it what it was and told her what I thought if a lot of what has happened in her life. I don't know if it was the right thing to do or not. She defended them at one point and I am told her not to tell them what we talk about and to lie if they ask. It feels really wrong to be talking badly about them to her but they are bad people.

Nine more months until she is 18!! Can't wait.[/quote]

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