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[quote=Anonymous]After 8 years of marriage I've finally come to accept that my MIL just doesn't like me.  Up to now we've had a respectful relationship though she is the passive aggressive type so she has made hurtful comments in the past or ignored me/avoided me when she was upset about something or for reasons I'll never know .  I am more direct and have tried to reach out when I've noticed tension or an issue has arisen but it never seems to go over well. She prefers surface, everything is fine, lets take our pictures for Facebook, etc. I'm by no means perfect, but I find her to be immature and sulky, rather than working on an issue, she feels under attack or slighted.  In the beginning of our marriage, I tried to encourage a lot of interaction and celebrating all birthdays, holidays, etc together but over the past several years it has reduced to every other holiday plus maybe a visit for MIL's birthday and 2-3 additional visits/year.  DH is fine with this level of interaction, but I feel sad for our children who I know love their grandparents.  The issue really is how MIL treats me and how she reacts to us spending time with my side of the family, or traveling or doing other activities on our own.  She somehow makes me feel guilty. She also acts sulky and avoids me.  I guess we can continue our fake, surface relationship and I will just take jabs here and there but it such a shame that things are this way when I'm open to a closer relationship and more interaction.  For the record, all family is local and we have the only grandkids.  Anyone been through this?  [/quote]

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