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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I had an interesting conversation last night about a self help book I was reading. He stated that women care more about the house and chores more than men, so that's why they tend to do all the chores. I stated that men think women are going to do the chores, therefore all men need to do is wait around until women do them. They will never get bad enough to fall to most men's very low threshold where he would do it himself. To prove my point [b]he actually thought bed sheets should be done quarterly and stated that a toilet could be cleaned monthly[/b] (DH isn't messy, so him saying this surprised me). He thought that we should just do more cleaning before we have guests, whereas I keep the house no more than 30 min from guest ready at all times because I find that easier to maintain.

To be fair, my DH does at least 50% of the household duties and works much harder at home than I do (he's finishing our basement, laying floors, and he cooks nightly), but [b]he has never once in 12 years done any cleaning or laundry[/b]. I actually love our division of chores and we both think the other works harder than we do, which is key in my opinion, so this is about relationships in general, not mine specifically.

So maybe men's standards are too low and women's too high? Anyone else?[/quote]

He doesn't know how often things need to be cleaned because he doesn't clean them.  That's not a different standard, it's just basic ignorance.  He hasn't slept in bed linens that haven't been washed in 2 1/2 months because you wash them more often.  He's just blindly guessing that it would be fine and not disgusting.  That would be like me saying "you only need a 2x4 to support a roof, anything more than that is just way too high of standards."  Me not knowing how to build a house doesn't make architects fussy, it makes me ignorant on the topic.[/quote]

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