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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I know he is not cheating but I am wondering if I am in the wrong wanting to know that he traveled with a female companion for 4 days. [/quote]

It’s a strange omission.

I remember being at home with a special needs toddler and a baby and struggling mightily and then learning that DH had been having regular  leisurely lunches with a female colleague during work hours.,He also was going to the gym during the workday and didn’t mention that either. It’s not that he was cheating on me it was that his life was still like it was in grad school while my life was completely exhausting and overwhelming and he left out those details on purpose so that he could continue to relax while I was dying - I never got a break in those 12 hours (special needs toddler never slept, crying, diapers, ...) . Yes I was mad. The omissions were dishonest and selfish - he was enjoying his life like that so he wasn’t going to share those details with me and possibly mess that up.

He did come around to also giving me some breaks before he went to work. He also stopped going to lunches only with that one gal by herself because frankly that made our marriage look bad and it was too intimate with just that gal - as he diversified his friend group he made some really good lifelong friends so that was good.

Your DH is leaving out details because he doesn’t want to negotiate things with you and that’s probavly not good. Just work on getting him to share details with you?[/quote]

So your DH isn't allowed to eat lunch or go to the gym on his lunch break because you were a SAHM? That makes no sense. The logic of women on DH astounds me--"If I'm miserable at 'work' then he has to be too!" Psychos.[/quote]

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