Reply to Obsessive rumination over bad relationship with my mother

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Obsessive rumination over bad relationship with my mother"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]Ok, I have to say that you need to adjust your expectations. What you imagined in the relationship was ideal, but not reality. Some of this can be attributed to aging, but some may just be a result of selfishness. Accept that at all times your children are your responsibility and deal with it. This gives you a burden, but also total control. If you must have help or assistance with your kids you will have to hire it out. It may be that your mother is now also a very child like burden for you as well. Sometimes mental age does not match her physical abilities and while she may be strong and fit, she may be loosing her mind. This can manifest in anger and poor decision making. You may need to get your mother evaluated. Start there and if your mother is healthy mentally and physically, then you need to be honest about expectations and set appropriate boundaries. This can only be accomplished by stating clearly what you will allow. It would not hurt your relationship to have just told your mother that if she had been invited to dinner you wouldn’t have expected sex afterwards. Sometimes the direct approach it the most effective.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics