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[quote=Anonymous]I’m so sorry for your loss. I also lost my mom suddenly and unexpectedly and it’s definitely a different animal than a long illness. Not necessarily harder, but different. I was also one of the first in my friend group to lose a parent (except someone who lost her dad as a kid).

I read and wrote a lot to work on it. I would also try a different therapist because that really helped me—someone who wasn’t afraid of my really messy and dark feelings. I never tried a group, but I’ve heard good things.

One thing my therapist told me is there’s no one right way to grieve. She also said that it was a traumatic experience, so that has affected how I’ve dealt with it.

With my friends, it helped if I told them exactly what I needed. Sometimes I said “can I just talk to you and cry and you just listen?” Sometimes it was “hey, please distract me with ridiculous stories.” They wanted to help but didn’t k ow how, and they were glad when I gave them something to do. Husband too.

It’s years later for me and it gets better but doesn’t go away. You’ll be ok, but that ok will be different. [/quote]

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