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[quote=Anonymous]I'm in my late 40s and haven't dated in 20 years. But, I wonder if my view of the recent #MeToo type news is colored by outdated memories of gender dynamics. In my day, there was a certain assumption that women might act coy or play hard-to-get and you should push through a little bit to show her you were interested. Now, to be sure, if she said "no" (in a tone that didn't indicate she was kidding), you didn't go any further. But pursuing the woman was supposedly romantic. (Unless she didn't want to be pursued, in which case, hopefully you got the point before you made too much of an ass of yourself.)

So, some of these "assault" stories -- I'm thinking in particular but not exclusively about Aziz Ansari and the recent "Was I Assaulted" thread -- strike me as  guys chasing women in a way that is maybe a little more aggressive than I was ever comfortable being but not really too far beyond the expected pursuing dynamic. But, now I wonder if my view is skewed by being outdated. Has the expectation of "pursuit" mostly gone away? Can a guy now reliably assume that "no" means "no" and not "try harder"? [/quote]

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