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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My brother was kind of in your ex's situation. He had a very intense high paying job with some travel adn that meant it was very difficult for him to have time with the kids during the week. His ex was unwilling to give up her weekend time (fair enough). He proposed a number of options and tried to figure out realistically he could have more time with the kids with the job he had and knowing what his ex would or wouldn't do and came to the conclusion that he couldn't.

So he left his job and took a job that paid about 50% of his previous salary but had family friendly hours and no travel. he sold his house and got an apartment a few blocks from his ex so he could minimize commute time for the kids and it made it easier for him to be more involved.

With the 50% decrease in pay, he and his wife were pretty equal in terms of income so that ended child support and he was able to put that money into his time with the kids and expenses related to the kids while with him.

He went back to court and got 50/50 custody. While there was a decrease in standard of living for both mom and dad, there was an increase in quality of life for the kids. Having both parents actively available and involved is of more value than a 'richer' lifestyle. His ex had a hard time adjusting to the change in standard of living but the kids didn't. They flourished and didn't seem to miss the extras at all.

Once his kids are older, he will try and resurrect his career I imagine. He doesn't for one second regret taking the career and pay hit to get the 50% time with his kids. [/quote]

+ 10000

OP youd and your ex need to be grown ups and figure out time with kids and not be so wrapped up in your careers.
Your kids will not appreciate a custoy battle now or in the future.[/quote]

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