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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We had similar issues with our DS, who’s now 12. Starting when he was 9, I made him run. Being angry takes energy. So if talking didn’t work because he wanted to be mad or just couldn’t get past it, I’d make him put on his running shoes and tell him how many laps around the block he owed me. I would stand out there and count, and at first, every time he came by, he’d whine or rage about the running. Every time he did, I added a lap. If he walked, I added a lap. Eventually, he’d finish running  and be too tired to rage. Then, after he had a glass of water and a few minutes to reflect, we’d have a nice, calm conversation. On the few occasions he wasn’t calm yet, we went back out and ran some more.

Exercise helps the brain calm down and work through problems. Now DS does long runs 2-3x per week on his own to stay in shape for soccer, and he sometimes comments on how much easier it is to work through a problem while he’s running. Some people probably think what I did was cruel, but I broke the outraged anger thing he had going (over time, it took awhile), and he’s developed good exercise habits despite or partially because of the experience. [/quote]

Well said, a lot of kids these days have pent-up energy that needs releasing. Outside activity, pe and physical work for kids tend to be much low than in the past. Boys without a physical outlet for energy are going to let it out one way or another. There was a study (from Stanford or Berekely I cant remember) that explain from a physiological standpoint how lack of physical activity as testosterone and other growth-related hormones has far-reaching negative effects on boys, girls also of course but not nearly to the same extent. It makes sense, their bodies are producing chemicals to begin "testosterone-induced muscular hypertrophy" a big phrase for increasing muscle mass and density. It also leads to denser, stronger bones, tendons, and ligaments. It is a losing proposition to with no outlet for energy needed and created in this cycle. [/quote]

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