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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do your in-laws have a history of being sneaky? If not, this is probably a case of them just being nice and wanting to take him somewhere. I'd feel like you do, though, and wouldn't' allow it. Just have your DH deal with it. [/quote]
Unfortunately, they do. They are the “Mom and Dad said bedtime is 9pm, but we can stay up and eat ice cream until midnight. Don’t tell!” types. I understand that’s what grenadparents do, but I don’t like it. I don’t like it when my own mom does the same. It undermines me.

Another thing I just thought of is that, years ago when we were going to the beach here, my ILs mentioned that they don’t even like the beach. Too hot and “touristy”. But suddenly now it’s ok. [/quote]

This is not in the same category.  You should stop trying to control everything about their time together.  Let them stay up until midnight and have ice cream when they are together (just make sure it's on the weekend).  It's not right for them not to listen to the parents, but also you should understand that grandparents should get to do some spoiling.   I would lighten up in little things like this while also telling your husband to tell them the trip won't work.

I also don't find your 'other thing' persuasive.  They are doing it for their grandkid, not themselves.  I personally hate the beach, but I take my kids so they can enjoy it.  So far they sound clueless and overstepping, [b]but not purposely mean to you[/b].[/quote]
I’m glad you all are saying that, because I was worried.

Now that that is settled, I wonder if the best course of action would be to ask if they’d be willing to wait and go WITH us when we can all go together. [/quote]

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