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[quote=Anonymous]I only have three, so take this with a grain of salt: I totally see how having equal numbers could make things easier at times.  Everyone has a playmate!  What keeps us from going for a fourth are the following:

-Expense: daycare, college, activities.  There are cheap ways to get clothes and stuff, but childcare and college are significant expenses.  We aren't of the mindset that we need to fully fund four years of expensive private college + grad school, but even saving enough to help is a lot
-Attention: another person means someone else who needs attention.  That doesn't change.  Everyone would get less.
-Uncertainty: this is true with every kid, of course, but the possibility of SN is a larger deterrent at this point, largely because of the added cost and stress.  And even typically developing kids can be crappy sleepers, and the thought of years of sleep deprivation just seems like way too much.
-Work: I have plenty of friends with four kids, and none of the mothers in those families work.  I have a career I love and am ramping up, and don't want to hold back on.

But four does sound appealing in other ways.  Maybe if I were  younger (am 41), we'd go for it.  Will be curious to see the responses you get![/quote]

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