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[quote=Anonymous]My parents are 70 and becoming increasingly mean. They always love to see the grandchildren, of course. It's what they live for at this point. But they seem to like to stick it to me and start fights. I recognize the pattern. Their own parents did this. My mother's mother would get nasty with her and say something cutting about her as a child or something critical about her house or why she was always so ungrateful, and my father's father would call him to pick fights over similar little things.

I see my parents are now trying to do it with me. Part of it is boredom on their part because they don't know what to do with themselves. Another part is I think they just don't like me as a person due to political differences, where I chose to live, even what can I drive. I'm just not their kind of person.

I've gotten to the point where I'm starting to fire right back at them. My mother has already called me disrespectful and says I'm setting a bad example for my children. My response? I'm showing my children how to fight back against bullies. I keep reminding myself that they are well, old. They are in good health, but not great health. They are slowing down. They don't have a real zest for life. Again, it's all about the grandkids. Is it worth fighting with them? I've cut back on phone calls and the visits are not too often. I just can't imagine another 20 years of this .

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