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[quote=Anonymous]For someone concerned about getting sick your daughter sure doesn't seem to have an understanding between french fries and clogged arteries.

I was 14 and had depression, anemia, was a very picky eater and had a father that I was a lot like (though I didn't think so at the time).  (Are you my dad?) Here is what helped:

1.  He helped me identify foods that were healthy that I could enjoy.  So, I liked a couple of types of fish, as long as there was no lemon.  I liked peanut butter on toast.  Etc.  Somehow, with him, it was very matter of fact and non-judgmental.  Whereas all that was present with my mom, plus there was an undercurrent of competition with her.

He also helped me make a list of foods known for having iron, that I liked.

2.  He spent time with me regularly.  From running errands together, to going to shoot baskets, to him teaching me how to do his expense reports for work, to us folding laundry together, to him teaching me how to iron, to him having me help him cook dinner.  We just did stuff one on one.  It didn't have to be fun stuff.

Also, OP, with all the reality shows on tv now (Kardashians, Housewives, etc.) there's a lot of focus on excess and glamour.  Kids think that's how it usually is.  But it's not.  They think everything should be over the top.  But it shouldn't.  We need shows like Roseanne back - blue collar, struggling, etc.

Does she play a sport or do something physical regularly?  Can you go for a walk with her each night after dinner?  Even if you don't talk, sometimes physical activity is soothing.  Do you have a dog?  If so, make it her job to brush the dog twice a week.  If not, take her to volunteer at a dog rescue.  Helping those less fortunate than you always shifts your mindset a bit, in a good direction.

TELL HER what you said here.  "I can see that you're struggling.  I hear you. I'm concerned for you."  Just knowing someone sees her will make her feel good.  [/quote]

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