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[quote=Anonymous]I think DH went to a strip club with his friends last week, but I know if I ask, he'll deny it.  It's not the strip club that bothers me so much as the fact that he feels the need to hide it from me, then lie about it if confronted.  I'm pretty sure part of it is that he's embarrassed to say he went to a strip club.  Also, this group of friends all lie to their wives (whom I know) about the strip club among other things (5 figure gambling losses, new cocaine habit).  Likewise, hiding/lying is the 'norm' to him and he also feels that his level is 'not as bad' because he's not covering up all these other things.  This has been an ongoing issue in our six year marriage and I'm wondering if I should just let it go given it's all pretty innocuous.  I don't think he's having or had an affair or had one night stands with the strippers.  My guess is that these secret excursions happen infrequently, like once every month or two.  And before anyone suggests he needs new friends, it's not happening.  He doesn't make friends easily (socially awkward) and he's been tight with these guys for over 10 years.  The other wives are none the wiser and happier for it.  Should I just turn a blind eye as well?[/quote]

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