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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am having a difficult time dealing with my in laws. They are...let’s just say, a little nutty.

MIL and FIL are not college educated. They are...Trumpsters,think climate change is fake news, think Melanie and Trump are the epitome of class, think people who are well edicated are snobby elites. They’re also racist and have made awkward and hurtful assumptions about me (I’m black.)

Dating and marrying my DH has not been easy. My in laws are clingy with their children. They resented the fact that he was marrying period never mind the fact that I am not a white girl. They finally came around and we got married.

Now things are...civil. They’re coming around and working to include me in their family. I was touched this Christmas to see MIL finally got me a stocking. I notice MIL buys expensive presents for her children but cheap ones for me but that’s ok I guess.

SIL doesn’t put any pictures of me on her social media even though I am present in events, etc.

By contrast, my sister is dating a great white guy with an amazing liberal well educated white family. They’ve accepted her arms wide open and she’s treated as another one of their children. She’s always texting and joking around with her boyfriends mother and his sister always puts up pictures of the two of them calling her family.

I’m heartbroken. My dream my whole life was to grow my family. I imagined I’d have a lovely MIL who’d be a second mother to me etc.

Is my sisters situation an anamoly? Or are mos ILs as lovely, kind and accepting as hers? [/quote]

FYI, the accepting loving family could have easily happened in the poorer non-college educated family and the rich white family could have easily been the racist exclusive one.  Seen in both ways.  You are buying into a stereotype in your post by including those details.

Do you and your DH have children yet?  Sometimes things improve once children enter the picture.  Then, you will have something in common.  How does your DH react to his family’s treatment of you?  [/quote]

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