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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parents with internally motivated children knew they didn't need to push.

The question should be directed at kids who were not living up to their potential in school.[/quote]

It all depends on your point of view.  What does it mean to be "living up to their potential in school"?

Who gets to decide the "appropriate" level of academic achiement is for a particular child?

And what makes you think that trying to get high grades is about "internal motivation"?

I'm sure you've noticed that kids are different on this front.  Some kids flat-out care more about grades -- and other straightforward symbols of achievement -- than other kids do.  Just like in pre-K when some 5 year olds cared a lot about earning stickers on the sticker charts while others valued those types of rewards far less.

I believe ALL kids are "internally motivated."  It's a universal human trait to want to feel engaged and to accomplish something.  It's a parent's job to be curious about and to recognize their kids' sources of internal motivation and to then connect that to learning if it's not happening naturally.

Resources and specific tips:

http://selfdeterminationtheory.org/SDT/documents/2011_KusurkarEtAl_MedTeacher.pdf

http://edtheory.blogspot.com/2015/03/self-determination-theory-supporting.html

https://www.amazon.com/Self-Motivated-Kid-Healthy-Children-Without/dp/0399175113

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