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[quote=Anonymous]Mine did not.  I was very internally motivated when it came to grades so it was never necessary.  Although my dad did occasionally ask where the other 1 point was when I got a 99 on a test.  I know he thought he was joking but I hated that.  I was expected to go to college but not an Ivy-type school.  I'm from CA so we were perfectly happy with the public Us (which is where I went).  DH got no pressure about grades and was not expected to go to college but did after a mentor in a vocational program encouraged him. He went to the local public U (living at home) and never considered anything else.  His family is totally clueless about college.

My DD is like me and I mainly try to dial down her stress about grades.

DS is less internally motivated to get the work done no matter what.  We encourage him to spend more time on assignments, remove privileges when grades drop below a B, get a tutor when needed, talk about what he wants to do in the future to help him see the connection between work now and what he wants later.  But, ultimately, his schoolwork is his problem.  He's a strong willed kid and unless we plan to discipline to the point of abuse or do his work for him, there really isn't a whole lot we can do about it beyond encouragement and limits on screen time.  As a result he gets high As in the classes he likes (generally, math, some sciences, history) and struggles to keep a B in those he does not (English, Spanish).[/quote]

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