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[quote=Anonymous]Ugh lots of PPs acting realll dense here. OP I'm sorry, of course that's really annoying / hurtful for them to say. I think there are a lot of people on this board who wait until their late 30s and early 40s to even try, so they are of course quick to pile on because yes - compared to them, you are in a relatively good position. But that's not the point.

The point is that you've been trying for a year and a half, and that sucks. Arguably it sucks even more given your age, because (it seems like) most people at 29 don't have significant issues conceiving / staying pregnant. Giving people the benefit of the doubt, I do think they're trying to be encouraging...they're trying to convey that YES it's shitty but don't despair because all hope is not lost - it's not like you're 39 and dealing with this. That statement is not particularly helpful or comforting in light of what you're going through, and I'm sure feels like they're minimizing your pain...but I'd chalk it up to people just being clueless rather than malicious. Sort of like when people say "everything happens for a reason!" Or "if you stop focusing on it, it will happen!" Or "my cousin's friend's brother's wife tried for years and when they finally gave up and adopted...she got pregnant with triplets on her own!" Not helpful, but people are generally not great at responding in these situations.

Anyways - I agree it's not a very sensitive thing to say, and it is definitely rough that you've been trying to longf. However, if I may try to inject some of my own positivity here...the good news is that PCOS is quite common (~10% of reproductive age women have it!), and is widely considered one of the most treatable infertility issues. There are lots of things you can try (many of them relatively cost-efficient and non-invasive) and, yes, time is on your side. I am 30 - I came off the pill and started TTC when I turned 28, and finally received a pcos diagnosis after not getting a period for 13 months. I was referred to an re and, long story short, was pregnant within 2 months. I took femara - a $5 prescription, I just took 5 pills and it made me ovulate, we had sex and...I got pregnant. Easy as that. It was a MUCH easier battle than I anticipated. I hope it will be the same for you. I have several friends with PCOS and we've all conceived - some with help, some on their own, but it's generally pretty treatable. Good luck to you! [/quote]

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