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[quote=Anonymous]I am in my late twenties and have a challenging relationship with my family. Simply put, they are stereotypical Trump supporters and put me through absolute hell during my teenage years. This includes abusing me for being a lesbian and allowing me to be sexually abused. Luckily, I've actually done well so far in my career and have made friends who understand my experiences. However, I'm still in contact with my family and am able to see how they treat my teenage brother compared to how they treated me at that age and the differences are night and day. I was always known as the nicer and more diligent kid and appear to have similar aptitude to him, but they treat him like he has unlimited potential and spoil him silly. He gets tons of hand holding and is given practically anything he wants. When I was that age, I was punished into praying the gay away and treated like I was stupid despite 98th percentile SAT scores and being more accomplished than him on paper. I am also aware of how this past treatment has limited me socially and to some degree, professionally because I learned to view myself in the worst possible light and also lost friends from growing up due to homophobia. I realize it's not healthy to carry past pain with me but I feel like I'm reaching a bit of a boiling point with my family. I have stood up to them and expressed very clearly how I feel and they're in complete denial while still being homophobic and sexist. What should I do at this point? I went to therapy for a few months and it was very helpful in allowing me to make sense of my experiences and learn how to stand up for myself, but my family is still the same. I hope that when I'm in a long term relationship I can spend more time with my significant other's family, but feel like I'm getting frustrated by the stagnation in the meantime. [/quote]

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