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[quote=Anonymous]I think you need to stop blaming yourself and get yourself into therapy.  This isn't about your sister -- it's about yourself!  You sound depressed.  You are probably a perfectionist and are focusing on your sister because she's the closest possibility of another person "being" you, and it's the perfect opportunity to compare.  But it's not fair to you or to her.

It's really unclear from your post whether she is still competitive or if you're just jealous -- or possibly you're reading competition into a situation that isn't there.  It's normal to be a bit competitive with a sibling, and it's understandable that you might feel frustrated if it seems like things come more easily to her.  But your life shouldn't revolve around that.

You also don't know what possibilities there are out there -- maybe you could have a really great relationship with her if the circumstances were right.  Maybe she doesn't feel competitive at all and wishes you would stop being competitive with her.  Maybe she feels totally inadequate because she thinks you are perfect and is thus pushing herself all the time to do more.  Until you try to address your own feelings, you will never know.[/quote]

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