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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm an older sister and sometimes I feel bad for my younger sister. Our parents had her do what I did for the sake of simplicity. If I took piano lessons, then she took piano lessons. If I took ballet, she took ballet. She had a lot of my hand-me-downs. I got to decide things and she just accepted what was given to her.
Maybe the difference is that my younger sister is not at all competitive. She an average, but so am I. We get along pretty well.[/quote]

OP here. I wouldn’t feel so threatened by her if she was average. She’s always on the loosest to be the best, brightest and prettiest. She has this perfect mask that never falters. I never see her sweat. No one does except maybe her boyfriend. [/quote]

PP here. I'm wondering what started this dynamic and whether your parents contributed to it.
I have to say, when I was in my teens and in my early 20's there were some things that I was envious about my sister, for example her ease at making new friends. But I didn't hide my envy from her. I remember a conversation we had where I told her I admired her sense of adventure and extrovertedness and she told me about how she looked up to me as a kid, which surprised me because I was (and am) such a geek.
It sounds like the two of you are stuck in a pattern of competition. I'm sure there are some things your sister is or was envious about you. You could try letting your guard down and trying to have an honest conversation with her, but you know her better than me if she'll take advantage of that.[/quote]

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