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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We recently went through this.  My husband discovered a previously unknown uncle who it appears was the product of a fling.

I'll have to admit he was fairly well received, but it's been a bit bumpy at times.

Here's what I would advise, don't contact them now, wait until after the New Year.

Don't expect much, there's a good chance they won't be interested, may not even believe your story.  It's definitely opening a can of worms.[/quote]

OP, this is good advice. Hit the pause button and reconsider in the new year. Don't contact them now, as the holidays are starting--holidays can be stressful even if things are positive and normal, and can be fraught with emotion for some people; adding sudden news of a previously unknown sibling from a possibly previously unknown affair could cause them to react very negatively. Waiting until a less emotionally weighted time of year could be better for you all.

Consider well what you do or don't want from contact. Do you want a relationship? Do you "just feel they should know" you exist and you won't mind if that's all that comes of it? Consider too that they might have no inkling of the affair and you would be telling them something they can't unlearn that they may not have wanted to know. I'm not saying don't contact but I'm saying consider all angles carefully. You will be altering their lives irrevocably. It could be for good, or not.[/quote]

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