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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Straight man here.  I think there's a basic level of physical attraction that's necessary for me to put forth the effort to get to experience your personality, which takes a long time (weeks, months, maybe even years) to get to know.  I suppose different people have different standards for physical attraction, and those standards change over time as people evolve. It's your physical attraction that will make me want to start a relationship, but it's your personality that's going to make me want to stay in a long-term relationship with you.  I've been in relationships with women I found physically attractive, but they ultimately ended when I reached the limit of personality attraction.  I can think of a couple situations I've been in where I did not find a woman physically attractive, but got to find her personality attractive after getting to know her; but those never blossomed into romantic relationships because we'd become friends by that time and it's hard to get in sync to shift over from friendship to a romantic relationship.

So no, in my experience, men are not "fixated" on physical attractiveness at all.  It's just an attractant, as the word suggests.

Do you really think most women are any different?  [/quote]

+1 Married over 35 years.  I  still find my wife physically attractive and I am happily married. My wife was much more attractive than me when we met (solid 9.5, me 7) but when I see her, I do not see the just the physical. We are a great team. We solve problems together and laugh and have fun. We have a history and she is still crazy about me, even though she really knows me .  I am not attracted to 20 somethings, my daughter's age. (To me, Steven Tyler, Billy Joel with young women make them look like desperate, old fools.) And the older women with the duck lips and frozen faces-hell no.
My wife never smoked, doesn't drink and is healthy, but not particularly skinny or fit. But I see her eyes sparkle when she smiles and when she looks at me, and that is hot. [/quote]

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