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[quote=Anonymous]I think you're on the right track with keeping the friendship separate from your spouse. Social one-on-one, don't talk about your spouse, etc. If the friendship really was about trying to get close to your spouse, that may become clear quickly when your friend stops wanting to spend time with you when spouse is never around (which would be sad if it meant losing the friendship, but at least you'd have an answer). But if that's not the case, the separation might help your friend shake this crush so that it stops interfering with your friendship.

If your friend continues reaching out to your spouse directly and it's making you uncomfortable, it might also be time for a chat with your spouse about the crush. Not from a standpoint of being afraid something might happen, but that the crush seems to be interfering with your friendship (after all, it makes sense that if your friend has a crush on your spouse, even if friend would never act on the crush, it might make friend feel uncomfortable around you, that even the crush seems like some kind of betrayal of your friendship) and would spouse mind holding friend a bit more at arms length until this blows over.[/quote]

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