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[quote=Anonymous]Thank you all for your support. I know in my gut you are right, but my heart is not on the same page. We were texting those two weeks, so it wasn't zero contact. And there were times he was able to talk that I could not. The difference is I never was unavailable when I said I would be available. He and I had a long conversation last night. He said he loves me, but an intimate relationship may not be possible because I get less close over time when we don't see each other. He said continuing the relationship was solely "up to me" since I was the one with the issue. I told him that wasn't fair, that I wasn't choosing this and it's pretty natural to pull back when I've been disappointed over and over.

Then he brought up sex problems. I asked him to get tested--just the normal panel near the beginning of our relationship. He agreed that it was a reasonable request, but never followed through. I told him he could use a condom and he said he doesn't want to. So we've been doing things other than intercourse, which is ridiculous, but I won't back down. I said he's welcome to fix this problem anytime. He has always said he's fine with how things are. But last night he said he felt unattractive and rejected. I told him that wasn't true, but didn't bring up the testing thing again. What's the point.

The other thing that occurred to me was that if I am going to get verbally attacked if I "slip up" even a little bit and get needy, then that's on him.

I know I need to be done. I know, I know.[/quote]

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