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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I am 35 and I got divorced after a really bad marriage.  I have a 5 year old.  I have a lot of fear of getting hurt.  I have been dating.  I have been ghosted, dumped via text, hurt, etc.  All in this year.

I stopped dating.  But I have a FWB I text with once a week or every other week and he comes over.  That has its own problems, because he's younger and not someone I could actually date.

I am trying to be kind to myself.  I need more time to pull myself back together.  But it doesn't stop the lonliness and the wondering about what all of this was really for.

I met someone really interesting pursuing one of my  interests this week.  But my mindset is that this fun thing we're doing is only going to be for a short while.  I expect him to disappoint me.  I don't get my hopes up.  I do have hope that I know a lot more now about relationships than I did, and I can wait until I meet someone who will truly adore me.  I never understood what that meant.  It only makes me go back through people I wouldn't date before and wish I had given them a chance.

On the other hand, if you haven't gotten married and had kids yet, DCUM has recently been saying to make clear your intentions to get married earlier on.  Maybe not the first date, but not to waste your time with people who are going to hurt you eventually because they want something/someone different.

Just thoughts.[/quote]

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