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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Short version: [b]he does not want to make any cosmetic improvements to our house[/b], ever. Maintenance only.

I just want to make a list, make a general timeline (over many years, totally reasonable IMO) and start earmarking a set amount per year towards this plan. We have the money, in cash, today to pay for everything I want without touching  very generous college, retirement, or emergency funds. No debt other than our 15 year mortgage below 3%.

But none of that matters. I just need to somehow move through all of the [b]stages of grief[/b] and get to acceptance. [/quote]

Hopefully, this is just hyperbole.  lol.  If he was the sole breading winner of the house, it's understandable (not necessarily reasonable) to understand his perspective.  But if it's a dual income household, you need to make your stand firmer and not give in as much to the extent where you need to "accept".  Perhaps you can compromise with him about certain cosmetic improvements that can actually appreciate the value of the house. [/quote]

I don’t know if it is hyperbole. He really truly doesn’t want to do anything that is not repairing or replacing something broken. I do kind of “grieve” the loss of the house I am not ever going to have. I guess that makes me crazy.[/quote]

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