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[quote=Anonymous]This is too much.

BIL insisted that DH do a guys weekend in Canada two and a half years ago last minute and said that the ONLY weekend that it could be was the same weekend our daughter's birthday and party was scheduled.

DH is a kind and agreed since his brother lives in Seattle, travels a lot for work, we never go there (trips there have been miserable since he works 24/7 and his wife is controlling), they rarely make family events (family in NY/LA), and he had never ONCE visited us in DC.  Even for our wedding in LA, he showed up one day and left the next morning and his wife and kids didn't come at all.

So, DH got some cabin outside of Vancouver which was BIL's idea but BIL didn't have time to book and ... BIL didn't show up.  He was driving from Seattle which was the car but DH couldn't reach him so rented a car and went to the cabin.  Finally, a couple hours later after worry, BIL said he had some deal and couldn't make it and "knew DH would understand.". No apology at all.  DH was dumbfounded.

We not poor but it was expensive and sad, and BIL who is an executive wouldn't even reimburse DH for HIS half of the cabin since he didn't use it.  (He had promised to reimburse in person.). And obviously didn't reimburse for the last minute plane tickets and car rental.

Fine, DH drops it (kind) but then 6-months later, BIL calls DH and says that our kids and I are not invited to the first family Thanksgiving that they ever hosted because there isn't enough room after we bought plane tickets.  Even if it was BIL's wife (no love lost), it was tacky.

We haven't spoken to BIL.  MIL/FIL aren't taking sides but understand that we simply do our own thing in DC where they are welcome.  FIL had tried to convince DH to go to Seattle alone but DH stood his ground.  Kids were disappointed but last year, MIL/FIL came to DC, and then this year, went to Seattle.
 
Well, today, TWO years later, DH gets an email from BIL with two lines:

I apologize for what I did wrong.  Your wife says you are a forgiving person.

That second line is because we see MIL/FIL regularly and DH is forgiving, already has forgiven his brother, but doesn't want the drama, and I mentioned it to MIL, who clearly repeated it to BIL over Thanksgiving.

DH is inclined not to respond at all.  I think he should -- 2 years is long enough.  We'll never make plans to see them again and they never see us.  It's just a formality but DH said that he is sick of his big brother treating him like a doormat and would rather let sleeping dogs lie.

Obviously, it's not my decision but I'm curious what DCUM would do and if they would respond, how?[/quote]

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