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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not just a single line, there are usually a couple of paragraphs ending with her telling me I should have "been more careful"!. I don't want to paste the entire thing, but it's a full dressing down and it happens every time we interact, usually so that she doesn't have to admit to making a mistake or changing the rules for some procedure and not telling anyone.

She's not particularly socially awkward. more like insecure but also ambitious? she also doesn't have a good head for numbers in my experience, hence the regular mistakes and surprise at the promotion.[/quote]

Take each instance by itself.  If she has accused you of a mistake, when you find the error and correct it, group reply to the same list, detail the mistake that was made (hers), then end with "I am a particularly careful employee and as is obvious here, I do double check my work.  I think the same effort I contribute should be made by others before accusations of mistakes are made."

That clearly gets across the group replied that she made the error and that she was not careful enough before she made the accusation.  You don't have to explicitly come out and accuse her of a mistake.  It will be obvious and when it comes time to review situations, those who have been cc'ed will be aware that she makes more mistakes than you do.  Do not try to detail each and every instance in a summary.  That will make it an attack from you on her.  Responding to each instance where she falsely accused you of a mistake and noting that you were careful and did not make the mistake but pointing out that she made the mistake makes your actions defensive, e.g. protecting your own reputation.  That it erodes her reputation is an unfortunate side effect, but a problem of her own making, not one of your creation.[/quote]

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