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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that wages should only be garnished if the parent required to pay child support has shown an inability/unwillingness to pay on time/at all.

Not all dads are deadbeats...whether they are with their child(ren)'s mother or not. If mothers are going to be given the benefit of the doubt when it comes to caring for the kids (until they prove otherwise) why does this not extend to dads?[/quote]

My husband has paid both ways - mailing a check monthly and garnishment.  We preferred garnishment so she couldn't demand we send the money early or give us a hard time about it.  As long as it was taken out of my husband's paycheck, it wasn't our problem.  The big issue for her was the garnishment way was always a week or two late and there were all kinds of other issues.  She would call us to take care of it and we'd refer her back to the child support office as she set up the garnishment without us knowing (and took a double payment one month because she didn't tell us nor did they).  It can be done as long as there is a court order.  She was much better off with direct pay due to it coming late but we loved the garnishment as it took away one thing she could harass us about.

I think they should have accountability of how the child support is used for months over $800 per child.[/quote]

Seriously?  $800 doesn't even pay for 1/2 my child's share of a roof over her head.  You are lame if you think a custodial parent is somehow chiseling you because you have to pay over $800 a month.  [/quote]

Your child portion should not be 1/2.  They are not roommates.  They are your child.  The difference should be how much between a 1-2/3 bedroom, not 1/2 the cost of the apartment or house as you'd need somewhere to live.  In my husband's situation, his ex's boyfriend paid the rent and major expenses.  Kids often went without so one has to wonder where the money went?  No activities, minimal clothing and when the kids were teens they got jobs to pay for their own needs.[/quote]

Then I guess he should not have had a kid with the woman if she is the type of person that would steal from her own children.  The number of parents paying child support to someone that they were not VOLUNTARILY SEXUALLY involved with is very, very low.  SO--  maybe the real lesson is, "don't have sex with someone you don't want to parent with for the rest of the child's childhood and beyond."

Don't want to sound totally cold but I am a divorced mom and I do everything possible to get along with my kid's dad because that is an obligation I took on when I had a child with him.   I get $600/month and I have her 100% of the time.  Before age 12ish, that covered childcare and no health care, no clothes, no food, no extra-curricular stuff, no college savings.  Since childcare ceased, there have been braces and some medical stuff--  so the payment covers, say--  her medical/dental needs and still-- none of the other items.

I am actually not really complaining.  It's his loss that he chose not to step up and do the right thing and I could even say "my fault" for having a child with someone who is not a great father--  but my kid is awesome and I get the privilege of being the mom-- full-time.[/quote]

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