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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH had a somewhat similar situation with his father and we set up an email filter to send any emails from his father to skip DH’s inbox and go to me. That way my DH felt better knowing he was not going to see any messages from his dad,  I could ignore his dad’s standard craziness (much easier for me to do, emotionally speaking) and just tell DH if there was something he actually needed to know. I don’t know if you can do that with texts too but maybe worth a try?[/quote]

OP, if you can do this, and if you're OK with being the one to filter messages for your DH, this is a good idea. Be sure you and DH talk clearly about what constitutes an "emergency" and any other circumstances under which he might want you to let him see a text or e-mail. You don't want to filter and not show him something only to have him say later that he wishes you had shown him. If he truly only wants to know if one of his parents or aunts or uncles has died and that's all -- you and he just need to be clear on that.

I'm sorry he's being made to feel so horrible. It only confirms that he was right to cut them off. But that doesn't mean it's not painful for him. [/quote]

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