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[quote=Anonymous]I have a friendly relationship with my brother's wife, but we are not friends. I'm not close to my brother, either, for a few reasons, mainly our age difference. We're a no-drama, stay out of each other's business kind of family. However, we do see each other frequently. My relationship with SIL and Bro would probably be nonexistent were it not for their children and my parents. I'm giving this background to provide context for whether I should say something about SIL getting sucked into a scam.

SIL is extremely naive and believes everything that's said to her if it's something she wants to hear. If a sleazy guy at a bar tells her she's the most beautiful woman he's ever seen, she believes it. If a friend tells her she looks 10 years younger than her age, she believes it. She has no concept of manipulation and flattery. I've heard her tell these stories and I've witnessed it myself. One time, she told a story at the dinner table about a teenage cashier giving her a free drink because he had a crush on her. She's 40. My mom, thinking SIL was being lighthearted and funny, followed up with a quip about a similar situation, the joke being that my mom is in her 60s. SIL looked offended and changed the subject. This story was an actual brag, not a jokey fun anecdote in the way my mom took it. She made a Facebook post about how someone mistook her for a 22 year old. She was deadly serious that this was an awesome genuine compliment.

This wouldn't be that big of a deal, except SIL is on the verge of getting sucked into a modeling scam. Textbook scam - approach, schmooze, flatter, and then charge thousands for photos for her "modeling portfolio". Anyone with even a glancing familiarity with the modeling and fashion industry would know that this isn't how it works and that SIL, pretty though she may be, is never going to be a model.

She's deadly serious about pursuing this and spending the cash. Would you say something?[/quote]

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