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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Has anyone rebuilt a relationship with a mentally ill partner? Not something like schizophrenia or a serious drug addiction, but something that nevertheless pervasively impacts your life:  depression, BPD, severe anxiety, stuff like that.  What agreements did you make with your partner to be able to stay in the relationship?

For context - spouse has severe untreated ADHD and depression.  I am almost out the door, but I feel like there could be a chance [b]if s/he could be self aware about the issue, commit to treatment, and help us (as a family) develop coping mechanisms.  
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I'm not super hopeful about this, but I figure it is an avenue that should be explored, as there are children involved.  I just don't know what it would "look" like if successful.  [/quote]

This is your avenue.

What it looks like is things are better. Sometimes they're really, really good. And sometimes you're incredibly resentful that you do all the mental lifting for the family, and can't even rely on a Mother's Day card. Or, for that matter, that DH can even manage to do what he needs to do for work.

My husband has treated ADHD and treated depression/anxiety. 70% of the time, things are fine. 30% of the time, I daydream about going back in time and choosing another life.

FWIW, we have enough money to hire help, and DH is very aware of his challenges. Our second child was what really made his issues clear, and when I insisted he get a diagnosis and treatment, because I thought I was losing my mind. It was like living in a fun house, like we were experiencing two completely different realities.[/quote]

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