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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been dating a guy for one month.  We are both 25 and only see each other on the weekends (he lives two hours away).  We have had a great time together in the five weekends that we have spent together.  I usually see him for less than 36 hours each weekend, due to work and travel time.

He asked a few nights ago where I saw our relationship going - do I see us together long term?  Can I imagine a future with him (married)?

I was honest and said that it is very early on, and that [b]we do not really know each other well yet[/b], so we will need to invest in more time together and we can figure it out.

He was upset and said that he was falling in love with me, and that since I do not feel the same way, that he needed to end things with me.  So he dumped me and walked out.  I have not heard from him since.

[b]Is this on me for not committing after 5 weekends together? [/b] [b]Or was he rushing things? [/b] On the weekends we also spend time with mutual friends, so it is not like we are glued to each other's sides.  I really liked him, but I felt like I was still learning about him.

Any input here?  Thanks![/quote]

[b]we do not really know each other well yet[/b]
Not at all.  5 weeks? In a year you still don't know.
[b]Or was he rushing things? [/b]
He sure is and there is something wrong with that guy.  You have to wonder if he spring this on all his previous partners after just a short time together.\
[b]Is this on me for not committing after 5 weekends together? [/b]
Absolutely not.  Even if you liked him a lot, and saw no red flags, that's not nearly enough time, especially when you haven't even seen him that much in that time.

He sounds very needy and desperate and him breaking up with you over it is a really passive aggressive, dick move.  He probably assumes you will come running back, begging for another chance.[/quote]

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